girls CAN change the world.
i painted this little piece years ago. when brooke was younger. i liked the words by Audrey Hepburn. who doesn’t love her quotes? little did i know that this photo would be used for a blog post years later as a reminder of how amazing our daughter is. she will be graduating from high school in a few months and she is now looking at life in a whole new way. lots of decisions to make. lots of choices. lots of people giving her advice (whether she wants it or not… haha).
we have spent hours and hours trying to find the perfect college fit for brooke. it is exhausting… but in the end worth it… or so they say.
i hear stories of how people have paid thousands of dollars to get the best SAT and ACT training… months in advance of the tests. parents are paying for others to help their students write their essays. their kids have somehow lettered in sports just by being on the team. they even have letters for volunteer work if you prove it to the school (i believe our kids should be volunteering through life regardless… i wish i’d known about this sooner as brooke spends many hours of volunteer work… oh well, lesson learned… i do know it is a good thing she does volunteer. it’s good for the soul… letter or not). how can these universities base it on only test scores, essays and sports their parents have helped them get. don’t these colleges want to meet the students? aren’t they curious how this next generation wants to improve our world? trust me, it is a whole new process. and brooke being our first born, we are learning a lot!
now, these kids are having to prove they are better than the rest. they are very anxious and have anxiety about getting into the best of the best. i think that’s why the parents have stepped in. what ever happened to students proving they are worthy of these school?
when i went to college, i remember taking my tests on a Saturday at our actual high school. nobody prepared me. they wanted to see what i actually knew. i applied by getting a reference, filling out an application (in ball point pen). or maybe i typed it on my real typewriter; then asking my mom for a stamp to mail it. and i mailed it from our non-locked mailbox at the top of our road. i had decent grades. there weren’t things like 4.2 gpa’s. i hadn’t actually heard that was even possible until our kids went to school. funny. it was pretty easy to get into college back then (in the early 80’s). it was the next step in life. socially fun. it’s what we did. and they made it easy for us to get there. life was so much simpler then… or was it? maybe i should ask my mom.
brooke did not get into her one college of choice. she only applied to one college. even though we begged her to apply to others. she said she knew “the one” and would have to research others. the requirements were so high at her one choice of school. but she tried. she wrote an essay she thought they’d like to read. she took her tests twice to get her scores to their standards.. and she increased them quite a bit. she even visited the school twice. she finally applied. then waited. the email came. yes, email. they actually emailed her. boy have times changed. she waiting for the mail for days. and it came via email.
the beauty of the process was this… she realized she was looking at colleges for reasons that she thought were important at the time. and maybe we were all pushing her to what we liked and what we knew. all we really knew was one person that went there and loved it… so, after picking herself up, and doing a lot of research online to see what other colleges in the So Cal area offered what she was looking for, she sat down for hours and rewrote her essay. she cried when she read it to us. it was perfect. it was her. it was very touching. it was about a personal moment in her life. then she applied to more. fingers crossed this time. i’m glad she got a chance to look at things from a different perspective. she has now applied to a few colleges that have everything she is looking for. and she didn’t even know it until having to change course. i am so proud of this girl.
BE BRAVE. BE STRONG. DON’T GIVE UP. EXPECT GOD TO GET HERE SOON. PSALM 31:24
did i mention she is also meeting with her model management team next week? who knows where her path will go after high school. i do know this… she will change the world along the way. and that i know for sure.